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 10 Dating Tips  Keep these ten important Dating Tips in mind as you plan your date.1. Choose the right place to meet: Make it a quiet, neutral place convenient and accessible to the both of you, outside of your home or apartment and away from noisy bars and distractions. You want to be able to communicate easily and hear all the details of the conversation. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 2. Stay focused on the other person: Avoid distractions during your date and keep in mind that this is a new opportunity to connect. Focus and relate directly to your date and listen to what they have to say. Be curious and ask follow up questions to their stories. This is especially helpful if you tend to be nervous or quiet at first. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 3. Keep the conversation balanced: Don't monopolize the conversation with a rambling, verbal resume about yourself or your accomplishments. You may think you are impressing your date, but often, talking too much on a date will make the other person lose interest and feel you are self involved. Remember this is a date, not a job interview. Make sure it's a give and take and show your curious side. People enjoy talking about themselves; make sure they have a chance. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 4. Be a flirt: Flirting is a great way to show someone you are interested in them. It lets them know that you are paying attention and available to engage. Practice flirting every chance you get. Make eye contact, smile, be curious, interact, and engage with members of the opposite sex. Rest assured, your positive, open, flirtatious aura will attract attention. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5. Stay in the present: Avoid talking about ex's or any horror stories from the past. As tempting as this can be, it is a lose-lose situation. No one wants to hear you put down people and it is even worse if you speak about your past with a negative slant. Instead, concentrate on interests or points of view you have in common. Enjoy finding out about someone new and discovering what you are like now, with this new person. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 6. Be Positive: Everyone is attracted to someone who is happy. Leave your worries at home when you go out on a date. No one wants to hear about your bad day or your problems. We all have enough of our own gripes. Dating is an opportunity to go on vacation from your daily grind. Give your date and yourself a break during this time. The more upbeat and positive you feel, the more attractive and magnetic you are. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 7. Don't have sex on a first date: Showing someone you are interested or attracted to them by flirting is one thing, but maintain boundaries by leaving some mystery for the second date. Getting sexual right away doesn't usually work out. Allow yourself time to balance physical attraction with other important elements like basic values and communication as well as discovering similar outlooks and interests. Give your date a chance to be more than just a sexual encounter. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8. Take your time: Give yourself time to discover how you feel about this person and how they feel about you. If you tend to be intense, serious or move very fast in relationships, this is your time to relax and enjoy getting to know someone and seeing all their qualities—especially those you may not see on the first few dates. You can't rush a relationship or take it faster than the pace at which each of you is comfortable with. Enjoy savoring the moment. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9. Learn to recognize the signs of unequal attraction: Try to learn to read the body language of your date. Look at what they are telling you both verbally and nonverbally. Try to be honest with yourself. Often the level of attraction on a date is not equal. If you sense your attraction to them is not really reciprocated, don't force the issue. If this person is not right for you, save your energy for someone who is. And if you're the one who is less interested, don't be rude but don't lead them on either. Let the other person know that you had a wonderful time but don't make plans for future dates if you have no intention of seeing them again. This may feel more comfortable at the time but in the end, it just leads the person on. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 10. Follow up from the date: If you are interested in seeing this person again, don't play games. Call them, ask them out again or return their call if they call you first. Don't make the other person guess where you stand. Be honest and communicate. This will help you both understand the others’ intentions and desires. There is nothing ruder than unreturned phone calls. Try, try again: Dating can take practice. Learn from it and don't get discouraged. The more you get out there, the more opportunity you have to meet others. When it is right, you will find that person that sees how special you are. Remember your great qualities and lead every date with those qualities you feel best about. If you feel it and believe it, it will shine through. |
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